Hi all, how has your week been? Mine was great, but I shall not pour them all out here as I think it is going to bore you to death. As much as I try, I keep my entries short and sweet. I think if an entry is too long, people tend to just scan through what you have written. All right, I admit I am guilty of this, but if the topic is interesting then I will read them all carefully and throughly.

Now, today I feel like talking about Dates.

It is appropriate as V day just passed. So what is a Date?

Taken from a website: an appointment to meet at a specified time; especially : a social engagement between two persons that often has a romantic character.

Now, would you consider going out alone with a friend of the opposite gender a Date? I think it depends on the motive/s. If it involves at least trying to know the person better it is consider a Date. And when I say "knowing the person better", I mean finding out if the person suits you, and not just friends catching up on good old times.

The problem arises when the two persons involved have different interpretation of the "meeting up". This can be misleading, and I can safely say that usually it is the guys who are the culprits.

Most of my friends who read my blog are females, I think. But the above was not written so as not to incur the wrath of the females. We all know how gals react over such tiny stuffs. Guys are more magnanimous.

All right, my reasoning being the fact that guys have the "rather kill the wrong than miss the right" mentality, while gals are usually more emotional. Girls: Would you go out with someone you have totally no interest in? Alone, and you know the person is interested in you. I may be wrong. Different people have different threshold. The threshold which will "motivate" you to go out on a Date with the person.

And I think it has something to do with the culture here. People stereotype easily.

They think that someone who asked them out must be in love with them or something. Oh come on. Where has the platonic friendship gone to? And even so, all relationships started off with friendship. So people, especially gals, don't strike off the person's name from your "Potential-to-be-bfs/gfs-List", at least not so soon yea?

Then what do you do on your first Date?

Frankly speaking, there are nothing much to do in Singapore. I would say movies are the best bet you can count on, especially on the first Date. Minimal interaction, so both will not feel too awkward. If things are going well, a dinner following that would be nice. Seriously, if you ask me, I think if the girl (speaking from my context) would agree to go out with you for dinner over movie, it is a good sign. She is more than willing to interact with you as you have to converse during the meal right. Maximum interaction, maximum potential. So my thoughts: just ask the gal out for a meal or drink. Don't waste money and time on movies or things which are not going to get you much interaction.

Someone, I shall not disclose who, asked me this after we went out together.

She: "What do you define as a successful date?"
Me: "When everyone is happy and we talk a lot?" (Something like that, I forgot what I said exactly.)
She: "Simple, when both looks forward to the next one."

Forget what I have wrote till now if it is going to cause you to think really hard about whether to go out with someone the next time.

I am just spouting nonsense.